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Don’t Know What You Want? Answer This Question!

Written by Monique Jordan-Cave

Leadership and Holistic Coach

Hello, magical human,

I hope you’re ready to fill your love cup tool kit with the

One question you need to ask yourself, when you don’t know what you want!

This is probably the first thing my clients say to me on our discovery call.

“I know I’m not happy doing what I’m doing but, I don’t know what I want to do!”


My family, friends and my clients know me for being 100% honest.

Truth and Freedom are two of my highest values.

Sometimes it hurts to hear and/or admit the truth but, it’s the only way to find the solution.

And whilst you can’t figure out what you want to do, I bet you have done any of the following quite a few times.

• Explained, at length, to your lovely friend that she is stronger than she thinks she is and she can open her online vintage shop if that’s what her heart desires.

• Told your closest cousin how amazing and smart she was and that she will definitely get the job, she just interviewed for?

• Screamed at your self doubting colleague that she should ask for more money, because she’s worth every bloody penny?

Well today you are my family.

Today you are my friend.

Today you are my VIP client.

And I’m about to tell you the truth!

You do know what you want.

I know you know what you want.

Mmmm hmmm, oh yes you do!


You, my fellow unicorn, have just decided that you can’t have it.

You tell yourself that you’re not smart enough or good enough.

You don’t feel worthy enough to receive it.

Or you’re stuck on “I’m too old, what the point, it’s too late for me”!

Well, I’m sorry but all of that is just Unicorn poopie!

Let me ask you this…

If you didn’t have to worry about money, time or current responsibilities.

And you didn’t give a damn about what other people thought about you or your decision.

What is the ONE thing you would love to be doing?

Honestly (with my hand placed over my heart for you).🦄💜

Take a moment, grab a pen and paper and think about it.

Write down EVERYTHING you dream about?

👉 Do you want to start your own business that aligns with what you want your legacy to be?

👉 Do you want to level up in your job and go for a promotion?

👉 Do you want to make a social impact for something you believe in?

What would you be doing, if you didn’t care what people thought, you had no deadlines or times restrictions and you had enough money in the bank to be financial comfortable?

You get to choose what you want to do!

Still feeling a little bit stuck?

Who do you look up to?

Who in your life makes you think or feel “That’s what I should be doing”?

Take inspiration from those around you and use it to help guide you.

So what do I do now?


Explore It!

Now please.

I beg you.

Don’t go all guns blazing.

Handing in your notice, squaring up to your boss, fingers wagging demanding a pay rise or promotion.

I know you’re worth it darling, but don’t do that! lol

Just do one thing to expand your knowledge on what is the next step to what it is you want to achieve.

I started my career transition journey at 37 years young and Google became my best friend! Lol

Commit to a day and time to explore your options.

That’s how you start anything in life.

One step at a time.

If you committed 1 hour per week (or whatever suits YOUR schedule) to discover your possibilities, imagine where you will be in 3 or 6 months’ time?

You’ll be surprised to see what your life will look like in a year from now.

What will you choose to do?

Let me know in the comments below.

Over to you!


Please feel free to share this article with a loved one, friend or colleague.

MJx