4 Signs You Struggle Setting Boundaries At Work
Written by Monique Jordan-Cave
Leadership and Holistic Coach
Hello, fellow soul leader,
If you donât set healthy boundaries you will forever be at the mercy of others.
It may not always be easy to see how unhealthy it is until you are stretched to your limit and end up wanting to scream âbleep bleepâ at the top of your lungs.
đ If you told your boss that you âWill get HER presentation finished this weekendâ.
đ You say yes to your team members who desperately need your attention, even though you know it will turn your entire day upside down.
đ Or you stay quiet during meetings because you donât think your words are of any value.
Here are:
4 Signs You Struggle Setting Boundaries at Work
and
What To Do About It!
1. Saying No Makes You Feel Selfish and Guilty
We need to change your mindset around saying no.
You need to get clear on the âWhyâ behind your âNoâ.
âBy telling Wendy I will finish her presentation this weekend, I will have to sacrifice spending quality time with my partner and/or friends. I will feel worse sacrificing my loved ones than I would saying no to Wendyâ.
Makes sense?
Before saying no, take a breath, say it simply, donât explain (unless the situation honestly warrants it), and stand your ground.
Establishing whatâs behind your reason to say now as will give you more confidence and feel more empowered to stand strong and say it with your chest!
2. You Apologise â A LOT
Think of it this way.
When your boundary is crossed it makes you feel uncomfortable.
Why should you apologise for feeling uncomfortable to make someone else feel comfortable?
Sounds crazy now, right?
Yes, being a leader does mean there are times you will need to compromise, with your team and your boss.
Looking at the whole picture and determining if this is ONE of those times that you need to compromise.
Not Apologise!
If communicating your boundaries at work makes you feel like youâre stuck between a rock and a hard place.
Click here to access my free Letâs Talk Boundaries Masterclass plus Digital Workbook.
It will help you identify, communicate and action them without feeling guilty!
3. You Worry About What People Will Think Of You
You have a kick arse solution to a problem thatâs come up in a meeting.
But, you stay schtum.
Whyeeeee?
In your mind, you believe everyone in that room has more experience than you and who the hell are you to present them with a solution.
So you convince yourself the solution is dumb and your dumb, so you say nothing.
No, no no, no, no.
They know what they know, which letâs face it, if they have been there 10yrs plus, itâs probably outdated anyway!
You know what you know.
Trust what you know.
Thatâs why you are in the job!
4. Youâre Over-Scheduled, Run Off Your Feet and Tired
Your need to be supportive and competent means youâve just told Amy in finance that youâll help her.
You donât even work in finance! đ
If you are working on the weekends and taking on the workload of others.
Saying yes to everything turns your entire day upside down â not theirs!
The next time Amy or anyone else from a different department asks for your âhelpâ, say thisâŚ
âI understand that falls under your scope of responsibility, but Iâm happy to support where it makes senseâ!
Tada!
Can you relate to any of these signs?
Let me know in the comments below.
Over to you!
MJx
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